Book Review: Motivate Your Child

Conscience, internal motivation

Disclosure: I received compensation for this review. however, all opinions are my own.

I know that I am not the only mom out there that gets tired of saying the same thing over and over again, followed by threats, rewards, and all that nonsense. Why can't they just do what we tell them to do and that be the end of it? Well, it's the same thing with toddlers, older kids, and even teenagers. So much of our lives are dictated by our requests and demands of our children. There must be a better way, right?

Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN have teamed up to bring an amazing resource to parents everywhere. Motivate Your Child: A Christian Parent's Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to do Without Being Told is the resource we have all been looking everywhere for. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but there is an alternative to the punishing, threatening, rewarding cycle that we tend to get in with our children.

Turansky and Miller take us through the steps to getting the every day life we want, without the constant stress of trying to get our kids to listen. We are doing something horribly backwards with our children without even knowing it. Have you ever sat down and thought about what the reward/ threatening/ punishing is teaching our children? They are learning to ask the wrong questions. They learn to expect something for completing the tasks they are supposed to be doing. They learn to ask: what's in it for me; are you going to pay me for that; what's the minimum I need to get by? Are those really the things we want our children putting first?

With God's word, we as parents, can learn to take a different approach that will change our children's lives forever. By changing the way we parent, we can change the way they live, and change the way they live in the future. Turansky and Miller use theology to teach us ways to change the lives of everyone in our family. They give us a whole toolbox, and real world examples to get us through these trying times with our children. Do you want to teach your children to expect things, or are you wanting them to learn the more important things in life?

We want our children to develop the internal motivation to be truly successful adults. We want our conscience to guide us, and therefore teach our children to use theirs in everything they do. We want our children to learn to respond to mistakes and take responsibility, instead of blaming, defending, or justifying their mistakes (and ours). Turansky and Miller use the 4 promptings of conscience to show us how to take advantage of these while parenting.

This book will also help you energize your children's spiritual journey. We want to be our children's examples of following God and living a moral and spiritual life. This is the best gift we can give our children. By following the plan in Motivate Your Child, we can get closer and closer to this goal.

I have really enjoyed this book and my husband and I have made a real effort to change the way we parent and we've been surprised at the response from our kids. It is a journey, but at least getting dinner in them is much simpler these days. Thank you Scott and Joanne for bringing this wonderful resource to us!

**Bonus** The authors are offering $150 worth of parenting bonuses when you purchase Motivate Your Child. To get the bonuses, just buy the book and follow the directions at


  1. Thanks for this great review Cari. My favorite book reviews include personal and honest sharing. It was wonderful to hear how the material from this book impacted the way you worked with your kids. It's also great that you and your husband are working together. That's not the case in many homes. The review was also very clear and informative. I hope this is still having a good impact in your family.

    1. Thank you so much for visiting me. I'm so glad that you enjoyed my review. I really do love the book and it has really made a difference in our family. I still sometimes have to catch myself, but at least I have the tools now. Thank you for your work and for publishing this book.